Raising a happy generation

 

The best way to make children good is to make them happy

Probably, no matter how strange it may seem, but the whole process of education consists in the happiness of parents and the child.

Have you ever wondered how difficult it is sometimes to give in, change your decisions, plans, and everything is simple because the life of parents and a child is connected by this invisible thread of gratuitous love.

You have been living with him inside for 9 months, you know some of his habits, habits and preferences, you grow up with him and change with him too. That is why it is absolutely impossible to explain this love and these feelings, whether they exist or not.

This week we studied aspects of that gratuitous love through aspects of child rearing and I would like to share their main part, telling about how important it is not only to be an authority, but also just a loving parent.

• Firstly, of course, this is contact, and not only physical, but also verbal, which is important

And no matter how you think now, I'm not going to tell those incredible stories now that we have to spend 24/7 with our children, be the air for them, and their only environment, of course not. Each of us has a lot of things and obligations that it is important for us to fulfill, but being there for him then we really need is an incredibly important thing.

He must understand that the family needs him, that without him the picture of the family puzzle will not come together. Yes, sometimes you just need to give them the opportunity to grow and develop, to be their first teacher, and the first teacher is by definition the most patient. He may make mistakes and fall, but we must show him the reverse side of the coin, namely the ups, of which there will be a great many in his life. We just need to show our great faith in him and love. To be next to that shoulder when falling, and that smile and hugs when taking off, just show that he is an incredibly important part of your life, because that's how it is!

• Secondly, every child needs to be made to understand that he is worthy of power, albeit a small one

Power is freedom, freedom of choice. Exactly what children lack so much for a happy life. Yes, it may seem to us that they are still small and do not understand anything in this life, namely those very consequences, but why not rely on these consequences when growing up? Give your children a choice! Let it be a choice of clothes for kindergarten, lunch at school, a choice of environment - it can be absolutely anything, but this is how you can build trust, let you feel stronger! In addition, you can build the same consequences, and sometimes they can be natural, which is the wisest decision, as long as it is not dangerous. When children have no power, they rebel against those who have power over them, or seek control over other people whom they can push around.

• The need for any aspects of protection

Any child needs protection, just the fact that you can rely on someone, trust, talk about any topic - this is all trust. Revenge is the reverse side of children's thinking, namely the lack of protection. Try to explain, tell, be the primary source for him, then that very protection will turn out to be the very knowledge that he does not want to look for on the side.

• Withdrawal 

Respect the child's choice and trust him - he knows what he is doing. There are times when he just wants to be alone, be depressed, cry, laugh, go through pain, or maybe just lie in bed - give him this opportunity, be there for him if he wants to talk, but don't push, remember - the most important thing is respect for his personal space and time, then it will definitely come back to you like a boomerang!

• The need for development, experience

Children, like any other person, need a risk, the very impetus for development! Do not prevent this, do not try to become a safety cushion for all occasions. Only through his own experience of victories and defeats, discoveries and failures will he feel the taste of life to the fullest.

Let your child live life to the fullest! Yes, it may sound like some kind of cliche, but I'm sure he will definitely say “thank you” to you! We have our own phobias and fears, our failures and falls, but this does not mean that our children tend to repeat them, this is their life and it may be completely different from ours, just be here always for your child, be the person he will think about and call the most important moments of life, but most importantly, let him live his life, make him happy!