The Last Letter from your Lover...

 

Conversations... It's still a strange thing. You can exchange a million words and... not say the main thing. And you can silently look into the eyes of and ... tell about everything.

Communication, words, gestures, everything through which we express ourselves, our thoughts has always been and remains a mystery to others. Only the closest ones tend to understand habits from a half-turn. To unravel the mood at a glance, to reveal your mood with a single gesture.

If you try to imagine your small, but at the same time such a huge world without communication, you can understand the real pain of loneliness, the one that cannot be conveyed by words or emotions.

The main key, the most cherished thing is in communication, the word can hurt, and maybe even grow wings.

Modern realities dictate their incorrigible and contradictory rules to us, and thus our conversations turn into emojis, punctuation marks, well, or just reading a message without feedback. After all, it's also easier, no one expects anything from you, and most importantly, there is nothing to condemn you for. But if men hear what they were told, then any woman tends to dramatize things, any expressions said in her direction, anything that can hurt her fragile feelings.

That is why it is so difficult to replace that most cherished emotion with one word, which may seem like an ordinary white spot in the life of the person with whom you are having a dialogue. If we talk about the text transmission of the dialogue, it fills only 14% of the information and the main idea that we would like to convey, despite the fact that 35% of the same information is contained in the transmission of it by our voice and emotions.

51% of our conversations are nonverbal signs and gestures, which just have the opportunity to reveal themselves fully in personal communication, exactly what is so difficult to achieve by writing a message. That is why there are still those dates, walks in the evenings and a lot of other opportunities to meet and say “I love u”, because it is impossible to convey all your experiences, feelings and emotions that you have experienced for this long time to this person in any digital language of the world.

It is always very difficult for us to distribute the role between the listener and the narrator. Yes, we love to talk about everything, especially if we consider our point of view to be unique and inimitable. It is difficult for everyone to make concessions, but sometimes you need to stop and learn such a simple truth at first glance “What do you want most, to be smarter (to be right), or happy?”then sometimes you need to be able not only to speak out, but also to listen, listen and understand.

The main aspects that you should pay attention to when communicating, and try to work them out in your character:

The ability to listen (First of all, you need to learn not only to listen, but also to hear. After all, it often happens that instead of focusing on the meaning of what the interlocutor said, we begin to think about our answer in advance. Effective communication begins with the ability to listen: be attentive throughout the conversation and ask clarifying questions, if necessary);

The ability to express your thoughts clearly and concisely (Regardless of whether you are talking to someone in person, by email or by phone, it is very important to express yourself clearly and concisely. In order not to confuse the listener and avoid misunderstandings, it is always better to give yourself time to think and formulate what you are going to say);

Nonverbal communication skill (Nonverbal communication means the transfer of information between people without the use of speech signals. Body language, gestures, facial expressions, and intonation are extremely important in communication. Studies show that 70-93% of the information we receive is through such nonverbal cues. And their correct interpretation is a prerequisite for effective communication);

Empathy (Empathy is another skill that is impossible to do without. To truly understand another person, we must be able to put ourselves in his place, recognize his emotional state, understand his feelings. This will allow you to adequately conduct a conversation);

Ability to cope with stress (Also, in order to communicate effectively, you need to learn how to cope with your own emotions. After all, it often happens that in the heat of an argument, people say something that they later regret. The ability to manage stress allows you to maintain clarity of your own judgments even during the most heated discussions);

And the most important thing is to remember that nothing can replace live communication, to see eyes, smile, dissolve in emotions, remembering every moment - that's what is dear to the heart.

“A simple human need: to find loved ones, communicate and know with our hearts that we are not alone.”