Divorce vs the path to family happiness...What will you choose?
So, if you think about it, it's not only difficult to get married, but it's not easy to keep it at all.
Last week, while attending a family relationship class, we talked about the multiple factors of the breakdown of relationships, the loss of meaning in them, and simply that many do not even realize the deep meaning of the word “Family”. And for some reason, it was then that I came up with the idea to write a post about divorces, why exactly they become an indestructible barricade for someone, and for someone a life jacket in this “ocean of disappointments”.
This topic forced me to delve not only into the main aspects, but also weighty reasons, and at the same time, given the fact that the history of the United States is not so familiar to me, I decided to conduct my research not only on a national scale, but also abroad. Fortunately, I had enough examples of post-Soviet countries.
Statistics very clearly show us examples of such completely dissimilar countries in culture and outlook, but at the same time similar according to the data received - the United States and Russia. If you think that I will show something completely opposite to your ideas, I think I'm going to have to disappoint you. The number of divorces in the territories of these two countries is close to 30%, but the most interesting thing that I was able to find is that the factors and reasons for divorce are actually completely different. And if before that it seemed to me that the main problem was misunderstanding, lack of communication, and in principle complete indifference, then it turned out that in fact everything is not so simple.
The main aspects of divorce in the United States include: infidelity, domestic violence and cruelty, misunderstanding, frequent quarrels, as well as financial instability. And the average period of living together here is surprisingly 18 years, while the fact that religion is not the reason for parting in any way caught my eye.
If we review the state of this topic in Russia; due to the unstable economic situation in the country, 41% of the reported cases are due to alcohol and drug addiction which in most cases is the loss of a workplace, an unhealthy atmosphere at home, as well as in the immediate environment; 26% are financial and housing problems; 16% are interference of the spouse's relatives in their personal life (And believe me, I certainly know firsthand that this is very likely to happen in families where one of the spouses either simply does not have his own opinion and it is easier for him to shift responsibility to the other, or the lack of action indicates indifference); and of course I could not get around the topic in any way 8% - the inability or unwillingness of one of the spouses to have children together; 6% - frequent business trips of one of the spouses; and 2% - problems with the law.
As you can see, the issue is not only global, but also deplorable in every sense of the word.
I was very hooked by the answers of my classmates about their personal life stories, each of which is unique and unique in its own way. Someone grew up with one parent in the family, someone watched the destruction of the marriage of the people closest to their hearts, but nevertheless they all grew up wonderful people! Yes, with their stories, with their fears, with their losses, but at the same time with their story of a little personal happiness, which either has already overtaken them or will come soon. Each of them, despite their experience, wanted to change something in their lives, each chose their own path to FAMILY HAPPINESS!
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